Vivienne So is the creator and editor of the lifestyle blog called Jolie Pagaille which means “Beautiful Mess” in French. She is also the host and creator of the podcast titled, This Is For You. She is an independent, single mother of one amazing boy. Her passions include art, beauty, dancing, fashion, philosophy, and writing. She enthuses in music recommendations and often enjoys the art of cinematography of movies and music videos. She believes in the development of emotional self-sufficiency and humor is the route of all happiness.
Vivienne talks about her times she went through depression and how it affected her way of thinking. She also shares how seeking online therapy helped her undo her negative programming to live a happier and more confident life.
Vivienne So is the creator and editor of the lifestyle blog called Jolie Pagaille which means “Beautiful Mess” in French. She is also the host and creator of the podcast titled, This Is For You.
Vivienne is of Chinese descent.
Favorite Self Confidence Quote
You do you.
Definition of Self Confidence
Self confidence is accepting and loving yourself as who you are, by not comparing yourself to others. There’s only one you and you’re pretty special! No one else can be you! No one else has lived your life or had your experiences. So let YOU come out!
Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence
Vivienne felt like a mess! She didn’t know who she was and she was constantly looking for someone to look up to. If someone looked like they had their shit together, then she would admire them to see what they’re doing right.
The “AHA” Moment
During Vivienne’s mid-thirties, she briefly did some online therapy –BetterHelp. She felt something was wrong and she was depressed. Vivienne has her version of high expectations of people and was comparing her life with other people. She was also stuck in the past. After a month long of online therapy, Vivienne decided to grab a few books to see if she can help herself undo the negative programming in her head. Slowly but surely, she became more confident. So, long story is there were many A-Ha moments as she was working on herself.
Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence
Vivienne is happier! She doesn’t care what other people think of her. She has less social anxiety. If someone doesn’t like her, then who cares? She is choosey about the type of people she lets into her life, whereas before she wanted to be liked by everyone.
The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener
Do you! Really! And don’t mind what other people think of you, it’s not worth the time. Befriend people who bring value to your life, who appreciate who you are, and get rid of people who do not.