Kimchi Chow the first Asian Coach for Asian Women and Immigrants. For Kimchi, the experience of growing up in Vietnam and then living for 40 years in America had left her feeling inauthentic and materialistic, unable to reconcile the cultures of East and West. She had to find a way to deal with the stress of balancing careers in high-tech, real estate investing, and running a family business while raising two children with her husband. She almost lost her marriage as she struggled to take care of all these priorities without forgetting herself. Seeing people she knew dealing with divorce, conflicts between parents and children, and even suicide, she knew she must become more flexible and open minded to protect herself, her family and her children. Through two decades of exploring and experimenting, she become more understanding of herself, more compassionate with those different than her, and recognized the crucial link between Wealth, Health, and Relationships. Now, she is devoting her time to coaching, teaching and sharing with Asian women effective ways for them to communicate and relate with others so they feel respected, heard and understood, empowering them to create a life of power, freedom and choice.
Kimchi she shares how she is able to live the life of an Asian woman in power versus living upto the expectation of others’ approvals. Check out her episode to listen to her story.
Kimchi Chow the first Asian Coach for Asian Women and Immigrants.
Kimchi is of Vietnamese descent.
Favorite Self Confidence Quote
The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.
Definition of Self Confidence
Self confidence is when you are proud of your skin, your characters, your beliefs and your abilities. You do not seek for other’s approval, and your self-confidence is not fluctuate by someone’s hash judgments toward you.
Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence
Kimchi felt proud after she graduated with a BS degree and was able to find an engineer position in the Bay area when she was 30 years old. She felt good about herself when everything flow smoothly, but then she doubted herself when things did not go her way.
She felt that whatever she did, she was looking for an approval or a praise from someone, either from her boss, her co-worker, or her family members. If no one recognized her accomplishment, then she felt bad, and started to question her worth. When she was in this stage, her confidence fluctuated daily depending on what’s going on each day.
The “AHA” Moment
Not until 20 years later, Kimchi realized that although she had accomplished a lot financially, she was not happy. The reason was she didn’t know who she was: her authentic self, what she believes in, what she stands for. She was torn between self-care and self-love versus doing what is expected of her from her parents and her Asian cultural expectation to look good and to fit a model of an Asian woman.
Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence
Kimchi now feels at peace with herself. She is transparent with her spouse and her children. She communicates freely what she likes or doesn’t like, what she wants to do, and allow them to do so with her. Her husband, her two children and Kimchi respect each other and allow each other to have their own space to grow and live their life the way the want without throwing the cultural obligations to each other.
Although she still interacts with her siblings from time to time, she doesn’t really care what they think or say about her and what she does or how she lives her life.
The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener
Find out your values, your skills, your talents. Self-reflection or asking people who are closest to you, or working with a life coach.
Know how you want to use your skills/talents to contribute to the world. Self-reflection or discuss with someone you trust, like your life coach.
Find out what make you feel happy, joy and loved. Do more or get more of it each day. Make sure these things are in your control. Self-reflection or working with a life coach.
Find out Who and What you stand for. Read the book “What’s your WHY?” and discuss with a life coach.