606: Build Yourself Up With Kayelle

Kayelle is a model and soon to be Nurse Associate from London,United Kingdom. In 2017, she took part in a march through Oxford Street in London where herself and about ten other beautiful women to raise awareness of our own imperfections and our imperfections in not just the modelling sector, but in day to day life in general. It was amazing seeing women who have been put down for most of their life for reasons out of their control, whether it be weight, height, race, vitiligo, hair colour and albinism. In order to model you need to have some confidence, and she definitely needed a lot of confidence to march down Oxford street in a two piece. But it was so worth it as the people that saw it felt so empowered just by seeing us do that.

Kayelle shares her story and what she did to build herself up to be the confident woman that she is today. She also shares tips that you can use in your own journey to self confidence.

Bio

Kayelle is a model.

Cultural Background

Karen is of Filipina and British descent.

Favorite Self Confidence Quote

Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.

Definition of Self Confidence

Self confidence is trusting in yourself and believing in yourself, your intentions and your abilities. It very much goes hand in hand with self love. It’s also about being self aware and being comfortable with who you are.

Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence

Growing up Kayelle had a real identity crisis. Being mixed Asian and British, she really struggled with bullies at school, as she was the only Oriental Asian in her class, she was also very short and never really felt like she fit in. Going through her time at school she would always feel like she had to choose one race or the other and it was a constant battle she was having with herself because she had no one to relate to. There weren’t any actors, or models, or celebrities that she could look up to at that time. Because of this, there was this constant need of validation and approval and instead of looking for that within herself, she looked for it from other people.

The “AHA” Moment

Kayelle thinks it was a case of a lot of small AHA moments building up to get her to where she is now. It’s leaving that toxic relationship and surviving the heartbreak, it’s losing friends and gaining better people in your life.

Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence

It’s honestly so different for Kayelle. Her perspective on life is different. She is less scared to make mistakes and decisions because she is confident in herself that she is doing her best and that her intentions are good. She gets a lot of messages from girls on Instagram and even parents about how she has encouraged them or their children to love themselves more and be more confident in themselves. She never in a million years thought she would be in a place where she could inspire people to love themselves more.

The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener

Like happiness, self confidence is very much a way of life and not an end goal. Although it is hard, try not to compare your journey to other people’s. It’s not a competition and everyone is on their own path, some more winding and challenging than others. Another crucial piece of advice when it comes to self confidence is surrounding yourself with the right people. Negative people will naturally be attracted to those with positive energy, do not let them feed off you and drain you, it’s okay to say no to these people, and work more towards surrounding yourself with others of similar energy to yours.