220: Embrace Your Identity With Joy Stoffers

Joy Stoffers was raised in East Brunswick, NJ, by a Taiwanese mother and a Caucasian father. At the age of six, she wrote, Embrace Your Identity With Joy Stoffersillustrated, and promptly recycled her first short story. Since then she dreamed of becoming a novelist. She holds a BA in English from Rutgers University and an MA in Creative Writing from Newcastle University, UK. Harken Media published her debut novel, Whasian, on November 2, 2015.

Growing up as a mixed racial child, Joy never knew where she fit in which caused identity confusion on her part.  This led her to being doubtful and never committing to anything.  Once she decided to embrace her identity, that is when her confidence also came out in the process.  Tune into Joy’s episode to listen to her story.


Joy Stoffers is a writer and an author.

Cultural Background

Joy is of Taiwanese and Caucasian descent.

Favorite Self Confidence Quote

A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.

A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.

Definition of Self Confidence

Self-confidence means believing in yourself; by claiming self-made strength, you can find success—which you define.

Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence

Joy was filled with doubt and couldn’t commit to anything. She ran away from her problems.  Joy also dealt with identity confusion.

The “AHA” Moment

During Joy’s sophomore year of college, she realized that she hadn’t reconciled her mixed cultural background, and that this lack of reconciliation was preventing her from intrinsic growth.

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Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence

Nothing and no one is perfect. While Joy recognize this truth, she also recognize that she can decide what’s best for her. Yes, Joy listens to others’ advice, but only she knows what feels most true to her. She values authenticity and self-evident truths.

The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener

Set aside time for yourself. Get to know yourself: think about what fulfils and empowers you, and pursue what makes you at least feel content. Everyone should pursu


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