320: Get Back Up With Jean Tan

Jean Tan is the face and the brain behind the brand, MYHABFIT which is a hair service app that goes beyond the walls of a salon. This London College of Fashion Alumni worked in FMCG before starting her journey towards entrepreneurship. She has brought all the best Hair and Beauty professions in one portal to help them take charge of their career and showcase their craft to the world. Dream Big. Live Bigger.

Jean went through many self confidence struggles such as self blame, self sabotage, self criticism, and thinking she was never good enough for anything which is something we all can relate to. Jean realized one thing when she hit rock bottom, which was to get back up and from then on she was able to become that woman that she is today. Tune into her episode as she shares her story.

Bio

Jean Tan is the Founder of MYHABIT.

Cultural Background

Jean is of Singaporean Chinese descent.

Favorite Self Confidence Quote

To define oneself is to limit oneself.

Definition of Self Confidence

It is about feeling good about yourself and the ability to empower yourself. You are centered, composed and grounded.

Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence

Jean has always been a go-getter in matters that she cares about. However, there were two major crisis.

First one was that she was named as ‘Ugly Duckling’ during my childhood years. As she grew up, she tried to fight this ‘bad’ name off by learning how to look pretty but self-esteem remained low as she was dismissing compliments from friends and was envious of others while in contrary, she adopted this ‘fake’ confident approach which was really just pure arrogance. This eventually led to another major crisis in my late 20s.

Both career and personal life went into chaos, all in one swoop. It resulted in relentless self-blame and self-criticism. That Jean should not have behave this way, that she is ugly, that she is not good enough. She also resented people easily. Her thoughts were constantly pivoting and negative. It was a self-sabotaging experience for many years.

The “AHA” Moment

There is a saying ‘when you hit your rock bottom, the only way is up’. Jean had to get out of the hole.

Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence

Jean’s relationships with friends and family was more positive. She also started to have Mentors in her life who are sounding boards to the problems she faced. They helped her to think more positively and progress through life more smoothly.

She started to engage in competitive team sports such as dragon boat to keep motivation level high. Most notable sports achievement was a number 8 placing in the world championship with the German Dragon Boat Team Singapore crew.

The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener

-It helps a lot when you have Mentors to guide you through life especially when you are at your lowest point or when you are stuck in a rut. Use criticism from the public as Fuel to improve yourself and likewise, forgive yourselves when things do not turn out well because adversity is part of life – you can’t control what life has got to offer you.