204: You Don’t Have to be Perfect With Frances Hui

Frances Hui is a Lifestyle Director & Brand Ambassador for FHS EVENTS, where she promotes the best people, places, products, You Don’t Have to be Perfect With Frances Huiservices, and events that she is able to find for your life and lifestyle.  She strives to connect like-minded people of passion and integrity who value quality, appreciate the finer things in life and choose to live well.  She loves sharing her knowledge, experiences and resources with everyone in her many communities.

Growing up, Frances thought she always had to please others before herself and she had to be the perfect daughter.  Find out in this episode why it’s okay not to be perfect and how it can help you gain more confidence in your own journey.

Bio

Frances Hui is a Lifestyle Director & Brand Ambassador of FHS Events.

Cultural Background

Frances is of Chinese descent and was born in Hong Kong.

Favorite Self Confidence Quote

Success isn’t just about what you accomplish in your life.  It’s about what you inspire others to do.

Success isn’t just about what you accomplish in your life.  It’s about what you inspire others to do.

Definition of Self Confidence

Knowing who you are – name, ethnicity, family background.
Knowing what you stand for – values, principles, standards, acting with integrity.
Knowing what you want – passions, goals, desires,vision, mission, how you want to be remembered, what impression you want to leave with others.

Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence

Frances felt insecure, that she wasn’t “good enough” and she had a lot of self-doubt.  She would often second-guess herself in making decisions and worry about what she should do next.  Frances would often perceive negative comments and actions towards her as being intentional or on purpose, feeling hurt and angry during the process.

She realized after many years, in looking back at those times, that she had lower self-esteem than she does now.  Like many people very often, Frances sometimes was concerned about what other people thought about her and what she was doing.

The “AHA” Moment

One day, Frances became more aware that most people are not thinking about her or about what she is doing.

In the end, the best decisions are made based on what she want for herself, in terms of pursuing her passions, goals and desires.

Frances realized it was best to please herself and to only consider the feelings of those whom she loves and respects the most in her life.

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Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence

It’s like a weight was lifted off of Frances’ shoulders as she could also feel relieved that she didn’t have to be “perfect” to be loved, which is what she believed when she was growing up, partially due to her upbringing.

The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener

It’s a constant and daily challenge to stay focused on positive self-talk and what Frances calls “mental discipline”.

That is, telling yourself, whether in your thoughts or spoken out loud, positive affirmations to reinforce your self-esteem, self-worth and identity.

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