327: Perfection Is Unrealistic With Amy Lieu

Amy Lieu is the host and creator of the #AmyLieuPresents Talk Show that aims to empower women from an Asian American Perfection Is Unrealistic With Amy Lieuperspective. She is motivated to make a change in mainstream media’s lack of representation for Asian Americans and women.  She feels especially passionate about creating a voice for women of all ages and the Asian American community. She also thinks it is important to create a positive community and safe space where people are proud to be who they are. She wants to inspire others to believe that their gender or ethnicity should not stop them from reaching for the stars and achieving their dreams.

Amy used to be a perfectionist which led her to not loving herself enough because of her flaws and the mistakes she made.  In this episode, Amy shares how she was able to make a realization that perfection is unrealistic and how you can overcome this in your own inner journey to self confidence.


Amy Lieu is the host and creator of the #AmyLieuPresents Talk Show.

Cultural Background

Amy is of Vietnamese descent.

Favorite Self Confidence Quote

Nothing can dim the light that shines within.

Nothing can dim the light that shines within.

Definition of Self Confidence

Self-confidence is tied to self-love, self-acceptance, and belief in yourself. If you believe in yourself and your passions, then self-confidence will come. Also, it is very important to love and accept yourself for who you are—both your strengths and weaknesses. Accept your flaws as a part of who you are.

Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence

Amy has always been a perfectionist. It was holding her back, because she couldn’t accept herself for who she was, and she couldn’t accept her flaws. She had to be perfect. Amy didn’t learn to love herself until recently, which led to her discovery of self-confidence.

The “AHA” Moment

There is no one “AHA” moment, Amy would say, because the discovery of self-confidence is a long-term journey, an on-going process. It is different for everyone. It took daily practice of re-framing negative thinking to positive thoughts. She used to beat herself up over any and all mistakes, and have little to no room for forgiveness of herself.

It was a hard place to be. Amy’s self-esteem suffered. With time, she learned to love herself, treat herself better, and to really forgive herself of mistakes, because nobody is perfect. Achieving perfection in every aspect of her life is simply unrealistic.

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Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence

Amy is much happier. It is still an ongoing journey but she has learned that the key to self-confidence is self-love, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness- -to let go of perfection, and to forgive her mistakes.

The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener

Amy would say common themes in women of many societies are blame, guilt, and shame. She believes that this has served to lower many women’s self-esteem. As a whole, women say “sorry” more often, deducing that it is their fault. Amy would give the advice and challenge for women on their own journey to self-confidence to practice forgiving themselves of their mistakes, accepting themselves for who they are, and loving themselves. Imagine themselves as a their younger selves, give them a big hug, and tell them that everything is going to be OK.

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