Stephanie Kwong is a transformational life coach, inspirational speaker, and founder of Fueled by Love™. She is also the creator of the ‘40 Day Self-Love Transformation,’ an online program that has impacted thousands globally by teaching the how of developing self-love.
It wasn’t easy for Stephanie to love herself since she also dealt with many issues with her own self confidence. In this episode, Stephanie will share one exercise that has been able to help her live her life fueled by love and helping others do the same.
Stephanie Kwong is a transformational life coach, inspirational speaker, and founder of Fueled by Love™.
Stephanie is of Chinese descent.
Favorite Self Confidence Quote
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on it’s wings.
Definition of Self Confidence
Self-confidence is making the powerful choice to trust in yourself, to take action even in the face of fear, and to believe in your own abilities. This all starts with self-love. When you realize the truth that you are enough, that you’re worthy, and that you matter, there’s only confidence to be had.
Her Life Before the Discovery of Self Confidence
Stephanie was constantly in self-doubt, analysis paralysis of herself and everyone and everything around her. She compared herself to others constantly, and placed most of her worth outside of herself.
Her self-confidence was rooted in external validation. She would hold herself back as she became paralyzed to do the things she wanted to do. Stephanie sabotaged a lot of opportunities by turning them down because she didn’t believe she was good enough to walk through the door that someone just opened for her.
The “AHA” Moment
This actually happened in front of a mirror in front of a room full of people. Stephanie was asked to do an exercise in front of a room of 60 strangers. She walked to the front of the room, and as she was walking up, a woman was carrying a HUGE mirror to the front of the room too. She was asked to look into this mirror and to think out loud everything that she thought of herself when she looked in the mirror. She burst out crying, but did the exercise and said all the mean things she thought.
Stephanie was stopped and in the 2nd part of the exercise, was asked to close her eyes and imagine that someone she love was sinking in quicksand 10 feet in front of her and the only way to save them was to send them love. She did this for a couple minutes and when she was told to open her eyes, she looked and felt different.
Her Life After the Discovery of Self Confidence
Stephanie loves and feels good about who she is. She is happy and feels free. She trusts in herself enough to take bigger risks and to mess up because now she treats herself so much differently when she does fail.
The One Self Confidence Tip For the Listener
Set your intention to love and believe in yourself and keep your focus on that.